How to Appreciate Valentine's Day if You're Single

As yet another Valentine’s Day approaches, you find yourself, once again, bitterly scrolling through anti-cupid memes on Instagram and eating Ben and Jerry’s ice cream that you impulsively purchased from the P.O.D. market. To say that it sucks not having a SO on Valentine’s Day is putting it nicely.


It’s easy to curl up in a bawl and whine to your roommate about cuffing season. You think it’s impossible, but turn this soul-sucking negativity into a wave of positive energy. At the end of the day, you’ll appreciate the healthy relationships, romantic or not, you already have in your life rather than wallow over couples in the media.  



Prior to romantic relationships, we experienced some type of love during our youth. From who did you feel love early in your life? Reflect on the important people – such as your parents, best friends, and siblings – and the impact each person had on you. Whether it’s through a phone call or simply telling someone face-to-face, let people know how much you appreciate them. Not only will this put a smile on their faces, but you’ll feel warm and fuzzy knowing that you made someone happy as well. Valentine’s Day is geared toward romantic partners. However, we can all commemorate the spirit of love by honoring cherished ones who showed us compassion and selflessness.



Even if you’re not in a relationship, celebrate Valentine’s Day traditions with friends and family. For example, western culture perpetuates the need to buy chocolate and flowers for your SO. For single people, alternatives are eating junk food with your roommates and decorating your dorm in Valentine’s-Day themed decor. Bonding over being single may seem silly to some, but the joy from spending time with any loved one beats pouting over the absence of a romantic relationship.



Finally, how do you coop if all of your friends are cuffed?



To start, props to you for surviving as a #thirdwheel. It sucks in the meantime, where it seems as if you have no one to hang out with on February 14. If all else fails, stay as busy as possible – finish all of your homework, update your resume, or simply take the day to fully focus on self-care.



Even if you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel – someone who truly despises Valentine’s Day because you believe that you’re #foreveralone – try to see February 14 as just another day on the calendar. Just a warning, it might suck in the meantime as you and your peers enter the peak of cuffing season. On the flip side, you should applaud yourself for not having to rely on someone else for your own happiness.